themutualunderstanding
I talked to xf on the bus today and we were talking about relationships, including bgr and friendship and again makes me reflect once again on this topic.
It's the nth number of time I know relationships between a guy and a girl cock-up due to really stupid, not-worth-it and avoidable causes. Makes me wonder what is this gap between the 2 sexes which are always over-complicated by people, most of the time, the over-suspecting party?
The way I treat friends is quite to extremes. When I regard one as a close friend I would take time off my schedule and push back whatever thing is on the way and spend time with him or her. But if he or she is not, I wouldn't really care if he or she disappears in my life tomorrow. Xf said that it was saddening and irritating that although he cares so much for us kyensai, sometimes we do not give 2 hoots about any requests he suggested to bond us together.
I believe in a close circle of friends, brothers who will be with me in every step of life. I don't normally hang around different groups every week, flitting from gang to gang, getting invited from one place to another. Also, kyensai is a unit, a tight unit of friends who are there to understand each other and sacrifice for each other. I hope.
Another thing I find to be of utmost importance between friends in trust. They don't lie to each other, a bonding mortar to be earned through passages of time and the dark valleys of adversities.
Its such an amazing thing in this world, a mutual undertanding and bonding between 2 people. Yet so complex because each doens't see it at the same level. When that happens, comes disappointment. I think it's much more than saying "i will be there for you". I think that phrase is an overused password to secure oneself as another's hang-out partner. It doesn't really mean anything when said most of the time, it's quite as useless as saying "I love you" when you don't mean it. It's as good as giving someone a well-disguised blank look and finally saying "I'll pray for you" when first, you didn't pray for him, second, you forgot wtf he just said.
Well I hope you few people in kyensai and some outside just know how much I treasure you guys. Your company and your advice, your listening ear and intellectual(less) minds, and I assure I will reciporcate. I am a man of my word, whatever I say I will live up to it. Next up is the kyensai anniversary lunch, and I make sure the turnup will be as complete as possible.
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