why worry.
Ive always loved to chill.
I mean, what's the rush?
More often than not, it pays off.
It will pay off if this is taken in an inspiration for proactivity than an excuse for delayed reactivity.
But even so, proactivity isn't paranoia.
So chill.
But chilling is a bit difficult when others are worried for you. Or even about you. The worst thing is that they doubt you can take care of yourself. Sometimes, it may not even be so serious. Just an exasperated concern, albeit rational, could cause you to lose a certain confidence in yourself. Especially if the person is someone who you really value. As for me, I would believe that the person knows me enough to um.. worry, so it may be true.
But what if they don't? What if the person, although close to you, knows little about you? Your core self? How about when his perspective is forever marred by certain mistakes you made? What if the person cannot change his perspective, or listen to new stuff? Finally what if he and you are different people? Wouldn't that make knowledge more difficult?
I have always wanted to go on a working holiday.
Because, you know, I can travel AND earn the damn airfare back. In some cases, let's say if I work in Australia or New Zealand, I can definitely come back with a fatter wallet (and luggage). So money wise, it's not a problem.
PLUS, I know people in the States, Australia and New Zealand! All of them (except NZ) I have met personally.
Is there a spirit of doubt and worry? If there is it tickles me once in a while. Especially decisions like that. Investments of time.
The problem is when others say stuff like: How much will your savings be after the trip? Some of these places are very dangerous, better not go alone!
Which I understand is out of concern. Sometimes I can sense a tinge of discouragement, but nevermind its really okay. Most of the time, they are not interrogations or anything meant to scare me, because I am not least scared by it. Come on, Australia and the States, though more dangerous than our Singapore, isn't Baghdad. And most people who entered Baghdad made it out alive. Oh did I say they stayed there for many months? Facing guns? You probably didn't know that do you?
But what some of these concerns did is to make me think twice. Which is completely irrational. I can consider, but not THINK TWICE WHAT THE HELL. Sometimes, it made me doubt. It made me lose confidence. Which is irrational. I know more people, am more socially capable, more situationally aware, streetsmart and intelligent than the average chap. And I'm confident that I'm better in those aspects by a good deal more. How many of you know what hands in pockets could mean, or, look back every minute to see who's behind you, or recognize the streets you walk, or notice the environment change as you round the corner, notice vans and pickups, take note of exit routes, how to take down the person down the street the most effective manner, dress like the locals, avoid looking like an outsider, try to pick up accents (I failed at the chinese one so forgive me), take note of eye movement and planning what to do next instead of looking straight ahead when you walk to your car or convenience store, improve your peripheral vision and your night vision? and fire a pistol? OK i haven't learnt jungle tracking and survival because Im not in the infantry so im down on that part. But given those things I do with my head as I go to town and come back, am I not better prepared than the average person? PLUS I have the best insurance, a friends on the land itself.
So, why worry?
One should worry if he is going to face a task and he is not prepared for it.
But should not worry if he knows the Shit Hits the Fan and can't do a thing about it.
EVEN MORE should NOT worry if there is little shit and that he carries an umbrella to deflect shit away.
Most of the time, comments and concerns from others don't mean to discourage. But more of offer a perspective the person may or may not have thought of. But if every concern tickles your confidence in yourself by a noticeable amount, then, perhaps, you're worrying too much.
So this is how to send a chill guy into a tailspin.
You don't need him to worry himself out.
You just need to make him have doubts.
So knowing this, I won't go into a tailspin.
