The simplest and easiest road in search of "emotionlessness".
Many a time i felt that i've been viewed as an emotionless guy. Alrite or maybe more of the non-emotional kind. But well, it's not what I am. Before i go on i hope it's not confused, or later hastily concluded that emotion is the anti-reason. Not always the case.
Yea i've been known to go crazy and lose myself when I'm high, or not high. Practically all the time, with my friends i do go crazy. But isnt' that full of emotion, expression and spirit?
I remembered a message pastor preached 2 years back. It's the few messages that stayed in me as if they were spoken yesterday. Simple, concise, profound message. It's about the way people recover from life crises.
He compared a typical situation which any person could go through 10 steps before the matter is solved (disbelief, belief, acceptance, blaming & anger, arguements, cooling down & apologizing, getting relevant people involved, praying, taking measures to solve the problem, problem solved)-i don't remember all 10 bt im sure i got 6 right. , Vs. a steadfast person who only needs to go through 4 (acceptance, praying and commiting to God, taking measures to solve the problem, problem solved).It's too easy to mouth these steps, while putting them to practice is unquestionably uncommon and unwelcomed. Because it's human nature to tend to be loved and cared and given attention, resulting in what's called "emoing". And it's also our nature to not shoulder the full responsibility, and thus the blaming. How long more should we get trapped in the cycle? What less attention should we give to devoting less energies, ironically?
Don't get me wrong by saying it's not alrite to mourn, grief, anger. It's all fine. It's quite abnormal to not grief over the death of a loved one, or not get angry when you are taken advantage of by your closest. What's not is that we drag them on. A time approaches when we should say "it's time to move on", and it should'nt be too late.
Let not the sun set on your anger. Let not your life be overwhelmed with grief. As large a part of you it takes up, there comes a time to move on because, in some cases nothing's practical to remedy.When a problem surfaces in my life, or a huge emotional impact occurs, the first thing that happens is, of course, the emotional surge. If it's good, then let it be (duh). If it's negative, man i gotta do something about it. There was once last year i got hit by this immense emotional hurt. After feeling loss, sadness for few days, i rememberd the message by pastor, and decided to move on. After all, firstly nothing practical can remedy, and secondly, even after it's remedied, it's ten thousand times worse. I immediately got up to get over the hurt and "it's time to move on". Yes and I moved on. It's
not easy definitely, but it's faster to get my butt moving than to stay there and emo and complain and be saddened.
Perhaps one day there will be less tears, when we get to helping each other out. As we suffer for our family and best friends, perhaps a day dawns when we both feel for them, and do for them, and walk with them. Instead of the tedious, predictable 10 steps we can take, cut it down to a practical 4, where there's nothing to lose. Let's get emotional, but in a way for a greater good.
Though powerful, enriching, and sometimes edifying (and makes you more so-called humane), lets not let them consume us all the time.Labels: christian-bboy
